I used to think that friends are the most important people in your life and you are lucky only because of the huge number of friends you have. I couldn’t be any more wrong. A number of friends can never determine how lucky you are in fact if you have only one friend in your life and that friend is loyal, sincere, supportive, reliable to you then you don’t need to have any more friends. I used to assume that I have so many best friends and all of them love me (as they always claimed). The thing is, you start to believe whatever people say to you only because you want yourself to be recognized as a mere existence and that’s what I did. I had always felt and I still feel that I don’t exist for people. I don’t know why but sometimes it feels like people see me as someone who exists only when they need to gossip about someone. Other than that I’m nothing and no one to them and this is the worst state of non-existence anyone can ever experience. So consequently I started to feel like ‘wow I do exist for someone, let me just give them every thing and all kind of happiness and let me show them how caring and good of a person I can be’. My friends would play with my insecurities and I brushed it off by saying to myself ‘hey, best friends do that this is why they are best friends, they can joke about everything’. They would disrespect me and I would think that friends are supposed to love you not respect you. Let me tell you, there’s nothing in this world bigger and more important than respect. If someone is not giving you respect then they don’t love you. You should not stay with a person only because they supposedly love you.
Respect should be the most important and sometimes the only factor in all kinds of relationships. It took me so long to realize it and then imply it but I finally did. I distance myself from my ‘friends’ and chose respect over ‘love’. I’m not here to vent and rant about my problems but I want you guys to understand that if you don’t respect someone then don’t pretend that you love them and if someone is not giving you the respect that you deserve then you don’t have to stick with them. If you see someone who thinks that they don’t mean anything to this world then show them how important and how beautiful they are. Everyone needs to know that they exist for the other person. Showing someone that they exist for you is the most underrated thing in this world. So let’s show everyone how important they are. Make it overrated, because some things are better being overrated than left being unnoticed.